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Thursday, August 7, 2014

Back to School

Here are a couple of fun projects I've been working on to get us all ready for school!

Special Shirts:

We have a tradition of buying cheap, matching outfits and customizing them for the first day of school.  This will be the only time any Beveridge kids coordinate!

Our process:

1. Google cute school-ish images.  Last year, it was an apple.  This year, it was a scholarly owl graduate.  Make sure image is fairly simple to copy using fabric.

2.  Using that image as inspiration, assemble complimentary fabrics.  

3.  Use iron-on fusion adhesive (exact name??) to give ordinary fabric iron-on capabilities.  I iron on the fusion material first, then draw the shapes on the back because it is much easier and cleaner to cut the fabric (it will be stiff).  

4.  Cut out shapes, assemble, and iron on.  Then, embellish with stitches or fabric paint!

I noted each daughter's new grade on the book that Mr. Owl is reading...they just love this!

Last year's outfits-

 Daily Routines & Chores

I mixed and matched some other Pinterest ideas to come up with what I hope is an effective chore manager. 
The kids painted their own chore boards (wooden doorknob hangers from Michaels), which are hooked on a board (Michaels) that I painted and mod-podged fabric onto.  I divided their chores/essential routines into morning, after school, and evening.  

I wrote the chore on one side of the clothespin (Dollar Tree), then hot glued a button (Michaels) that matched their personalities on the opposite side.  

The chore board is divided into "To Do" and "Done!".  Each time a chore is completed they can clip it to the "done" side, which is where the cute button/gem is.  I also added a silly praise phrase ("boo-yah!" "Good job!", etc.) to make it a bit more gratifying.  

What if...???

I know my kids, and they are guaranteed two things:

1.  to forget
2.  to complain

I decided to add a "penalty box" with extra chores that they have to do if they forget about a chore or whine about a chore.  Here's hoping this works!!

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Decorating Tips for Cheapies

As a (mostly) stay-at-home mom I'm home a lot and get so tired of seeing the same thing.  I always want to change up colors, styles, decorations, etc.  My kids--especially my girls--also LOVE to see little changes around the house.  

But here's the catch, I'm a cheapie.

I hate the idea of spending money on something I could make--even if my homemade version turns out to be a disaster!  

During summer, my life is about 90% less busy since I'm not working and the kids are out of school/activities/events.  This leads to long....looonnnngggg days that my daughters and I love to fill with creating something out of nothing.  

I have been happy with how the last few of little projects turned out so I thought I'd share them with you.  So, if you are also a cheapie but want to make your home a bit more personalized, maybe you can get an idea or two--or share some of your ideas with me. 

Oh!  One more thing.  I am just not motivated enough to make this blog look fancy (obviously) so all of my pictures are taken on my phone and my house is far from "staged" or clean.'ve been warned.

Table & Chair nightmare:

...turned into a dream...

This is my favorite project.  Our table and chair set had taken its share of abuse and I had to resort to using a tablecloth 24/7 since it had gotten so unsightly.  Ugh...I sooo wish I had taken a "before" picture!

The problem was that this table is the center of our lives.  We don't just use it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner--my kids use it almost nonstop for crafts, drawing, homework, play-doh, etc. etc. etc.  The tablecloth was impossible to keep up with (keep clean, keep straight, keep ON...).  

My solution:

  • sand everything thoroughly
  • Chairs:  use decent spray-paint (Valspar from Lowe's--glossy) to spray the chairs.  Each chair took about 1 can of spray paint; about $4 each. 
  • Seating at meal time was always a fight.  I decided to "assign" each family member a chair to eliminate fights over who sits next to whom, blah blah blah.  I used craft paint to paint our initials on each chair, and the kids love it.  Victory!!  One less battle!
  • Table:  spent about $3-4 on a paint sample I had mixed at Lowe's.  *Note:  They only give samples in satin, so the gloss had to be a separate purchase
  • After painting the table yellow, I noticed it looked like a huge canvas just waiting for some flair.  I looked up and saw my shades...and couldn't resist copying that pattern onto the table.  I used craft paint that I had around the house, and used a brush for the "stem" and a sponge to create the puffy flower affect.
  • I bought a clear, glossy finish from Ollie's for $3 and gave the entire table several coats (allowing a few hours to dry between each coat). 

I am thrilled that I turned an eyesore into a pretty statement!



Don't throw out the old throw pillows!

A few years ago, the throw pillows that came with our couch were starting to look pretty shabby.  Some even had suffered life-threatening lacerations from abusive little boys who got a hold of their sisters' scissors.  I literally had them in the trash can when I had an idea to save me a TON of money (I cannot even BELIEVE how much throw pillows cost!!!  Ahhh!)

I made slip covers for each pillow.  These slipcovers were great because I could take them off and wash them.  After a few years of washing, AND kids using the opening in the back as an opportunity to create pillow-hats, the slip covers started to fall apart.

So, since it is summer time, I thought another pillow makeover was in order.  For the back (AKA generally unseen) part of the slipcovers I used really cheap fabric.  I love the color and variety it added to the living room.  I am also thinking about making fall/Halloween/Christmas slipcovers to add a festive touch! 



Stairway to (Kids') Heaven:

I saw this at a neighborhood friend's house, who had her grandchildren make handprints on the wall down the basement stairs.  I just couldn't resist copying!  Since the basement is our "kid zone", it is a perfect way to lead (and trap, heh heh heh!) the kids downstairs...

  • I just used cheap craft paint, painted the kids' hands, and stamped them onto the wall.
  • If you ever get tired of them, sand lightly and paint over.  

And a *handy* way to finish the theme...

At the bottom of the staircase I made this handprint collage:
  • I spray painted a large old picture frame 
  • I used decorative tape from Michael's to cover the dated pattern on the matting inside the frame
  • I used craft paint and got each kids' handprint on paper, and framed.  You can tell it was kind of a shoddy job, but still--I think it's cute and I think it adds character (read:  I didn't feel like putting any more effort into it).

On the other wall of the stairs, I have these pieces of wall art that I made forever and a day ago.  They are just canvases that I used painter's tape to create a design on, and then a small mini-roller to paint on top of the taped-design.  I will say that there was some paint bleeding into the design, so I had to touch up with white paint and a tiny paintbrush.  Since that was such a pain, maybe that is why I continue to keep these displayed after all these years.  :)



Basement Beautification:

Last year, I painted my basement a brighter color.  The problem was, that the previous "decor" went with the neutral, beige colored walls.  All of my wall hangings now looked out of place.  I didn't want to spend more money on new decorations, so I just used a few tricks to update what I already had.

  • Using decorative tape from Michael's, I outlined a few of my floating shelves.
  • I also spray-painted some of my picture frames to add a pop of gold/yellow which was my new "theme". 

 My sister Karis helped me with these accent flowers.  They are just scrapbook paper from Michaels that we cut into different sized flower shapes and used a pencil to curl up the edges to add dimension.  We hot-glued a push-pin onto the back and pinned them all over the place, including this little mural here. 

 I also couldn't resist adding a pop of yellow to the inside of the arch here.  This paint was a sample I had I could avoid spending $$$ on a whole gallon.

You might also notice in the kids' play room that I have an easy way to display their constant flow of artwork.  These are just painted boards with bendy wire (real name?) hanging down.  I use paperclips to clip on artwork.

So... what are some of your favorite " design on a dime " tips?



Friday, May 16, 2014

Tweens & Technology

What happened? Yesterday they were wearing diapers!!

This past Christmas, we got our girls each an iPod touch. Previously, old hand-me-down iPods provided them with endless (actually, not quite endless--the battery life was pretty lame on these old-timers!) hours of music listening enjoyment, so we thought they would enjoy a more updated version. I can hardly believe our naivety! As I'm sure that you already know, listening to music is the last thing kids use their iPods for. (News to me!!!) My hubby and I were quickly thrust into a whole new world of monitoring apps, face-timing, messaging, texting, and access to virtually anything imaginable with the swipe of a finger. Scary.

Our girls are only 9 and 7 1/2, and we are not okay with blindly surrendering them to this very grown-up world of technology. However, we know that in the 21st century, technology is an essential part of everyday life and we do not feel that it is right to shelter our children completely from it.

After some trial and error, we think we have figured out a few tips on how to allow our daughters the freedom to enjoy their grown-up devices while still maintaining the innocence of childhood. Please share with me any tips that you have found helpful as we enter this crazy new phase in our parenting journey!

1. Share Accounts

My daughters and I all share the same iTunes account. This way, I can very easily manage and monitor who contacts them or who they are contacting.

2. Keep Passwords Secret

Remember, my daughters are still very young. It is a privilege to even have this type of device. I have never told them the password to our iTunes account, which keeps them from downloading anything without my help. Yes, it can be a pain when it comes to updates, etc.; but I have never had to worry about them racking up iTunes bills or downloading inappropriate content.

One other note on passwords: they are not permitted to "lock" their devices. All of ours (mine included) are unlocked for easy monitoring.

3. Parental Controls...Your Best Friend

I have disabled their ability to access search engines on their devices. If they want to Google something, and they ALWAYS do, they must use the family computer and I have to be with them. There is too much that their young eyes could see that cannot be erased from memory.

4. Shamelessly Snoop!

I remind my girls all the time that I will be reading and "spot-checking" their iPods regularly. If they say or do something inappropriate, I will see it.
PS--they snoop on me too, which holds me accountable!

5. "Ask First or Lose It!"

Before face-timing, messaging, or any type of communication; they are required to ask for permission first. There are many reasons for this rule (all, I might add, learned the hard way!). They must learn proper etiquette--sometimes it is not an appropriate time to contact someone. Furthermore, when they are home from school, it is first and foremost family time. They are not to spend all evenings and weekends hiding in their rooms talking to fellow teenyboppers.

Daily Time Limits?

It is also worth noting that there is one rule that we do NOT have: a daily time limit.
Why? First of all, this chick does not have the discipline or fortitude to measure closely the minutes spent on the devices. Secondly, in our home, every day is different. There are days that a 30 minute time limit is much too long to spend on the iPods; and there are days when we have more time to spare. I don't like putting a strict time limit on this. They are aware that if they take advantage of this privilege and show poor judgement, they will lose the privilege at a moment's notice.

A final thought...

There are many wonderful benefits to owning these devices. They have enabled my daughters to talk to out-of-town cousins/aunts/uncles, share special news with family members, and grow closer to their friends. They have bonded with each other over Minion Rush and Dumb Ways to Die (yes...that one slipped through the cracks until it was too late!).

It is so important to teach kids at an early age how to use technology for good and not evil. My hope and prayer is that this experience will help our kids learn self-discipline, discernment, time management...and of course, how to get to the next level in Candy Crush. ;)

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Supermom: The Impossible Dream?

Recently, I've noticed a trend in my conversations with and observations of the modern mom.  Between the kids, the house, the hubby, the school stuff, the church stuff, and work (outside of the home, inside of the home, or anywhere in between!)--it seems everyone I know is being pulled in several different directions.

As a work at home mom, I often struggle with feeling like a failure in various aspects of my life:  my house is a wreck, I'm not paying enough attention to my husband, I'm impatient with my kids, I'm not devoting enough time to my work, I forgot to sign the supply list for the preschool Valentine's Day party until only one slot was left and I just didn't feel like coming up a craft idea so I didn't sign up for anything and now everyone probably thinks I'm a slacker... 
I think we can all relate!  If I feel guilty that my house is a mess, I spend more time cleaning and less time with the kids.  Now I feel guilty that my kids aren't getting enough attention.  If I play with the kids more, I spend less time cleaning or working. I now feel guilty for not getting all of my work done.  Does this sound familiar?! it really possible to be a "supermom" who can manage all of this and still be a real, living, human being? 

No.  Well, yes.  Kind of? 

First of all, it is logistically impossible to give 100% of myself to everything I have been entrusted with.  I have learned to make peace with this fact.  Add to it that even when I do give the ol' heart and soul to something, I still end up disappointing someone!  I can't win! 

My solution to this problem--of being stretched in so many different directions--has become to prayerfully and carefully select the things that I allow into my life.  As the mom, nearly everything I do has an impact on my family.  I am dealing with this in two ways:

1.  Do I really need to do this?!

I have several things on my proverbial "plate". At times, I find them difficult to manage; however I am learning to carefully select the items that I heap onto my plate and how to leave everything else out there on the buffet (yeah...I'm taking this a bit too far!). You won't find my kids enrolled in gymnastics, ballet, soccer, rockabye reader, brainy baby, or musical munchkin. I'm not against those cute activities--I just know me and my family. I know that my kids get cranky when they're being transported too much. I know that I need to have time each week when I can stay home to clean and catch up on laundry and let the kids play--or else I get cranky!  I know that when I over commit myself or my family, we ALL suffer. So I prioritize. For us, it is important that my 5 year old go to preschool and my 6 year old take piano lessons once a week. If any additional activities will cause a financial strain or a scheduling stress, count us OUT! You might think it is terrible or even selfish that I don't consider it a priority to cultivate my 3-year-old son's inner athletic genius (if you know him, you'll get that joke!)...but I know better. I know that right now, in this moment of our family's timeline, he will benefit most from a semi-sane mom and a relatively consistent and relaxed schedule.  As the kids grow, I'm sure our priorities will shift in some areas, and I pray that we choose wisely.

2.  Yes, I really DO need to do this...NOW! 
(But more importantly, HOW?)

There are times when one of my responsibilities begs 100% (or more!) of my attention.  For example, the beginning and end of the semester requires that more of my time and attention be put on work.  You might walk into my house around the first week of May to find dirty counters, a sink full of dishes, kids parked in front of the TV (or running wild.  Or both.), and me in the midst of the chaos trying to grade papers with a dirty kid loosely mounted to my hip.  I'm okay with that!  I know that this is not a pattern and that this too shall pass.  I understand that after I've given my students a little extra heap of me, my kids will be right next in line (and my house eventually).  I'm learning not to stress about these occasional imbalances.
My 1-year-old Assistant

God has entrusted me with 4 little kiddies, a great husband, a ton of students, and a huge extended family.  I am sad to admit that I have, at times, let all of these people down.  Yet even those times of failure can be a blessing because they cause me to rely more on God's help and understand that I cannot do it alone...and that I need to redirect my focus on God and not on impressing the world with my supermom superpowers.  (That ship has sailed!)  I need to trust that He can help me manage it all, but understand that He never expected me to do it perfectly.  He does expect me to try my best, and to give Him the load when I can't carry it.   

I am so grateful for the many blessings and responsibilities that God has given to me, and so thankful that He forgives me when I don't handle everything the way I wish I could. In the end, as I've mentioned in a previous post, it isn't about what anyone else thinks of me.  It's whether or not my actions are pleasing to God.

Monday, December 5, 2011

Let Your Inner Elf Hustle On Out!

If you know my family, it's no secret that we are Christmas fanatics.  What's not to love about the most wonderful time of the year?  Ok, there ARE some things that aren't too loveable.  Pageants, presents, parties... how can you get everything done and still actually enjoy it? 

First of all...

You DON'T have to do everything!  Can you believe it??

If you find that your commitments or expectations are robbing you of your holiday spirit, start trimming the fat.  What can go?  What can't go?  Does everyone and their boyfriend really need a present from you?  Can you opt out of signing up to cater, decorate, and play Santa at your kid's classroom party?  Have you convinced yourself that everyone on your street simply MUST have a gift-wrapped selection of your most delicious, baked-from-scratch Christmas cookies?  If you enjoy these things, then go for it.  But, if you are starting to feel overwhelmed or resentful because of all of the extras, do yourself (and your family) a favor and just DON'T.  Oddly enough, my hubsters prefers a sane wife as opposed to frazzled-flour-covered-frosting-stained-sleep-deprived-shopped-to-death Martha Stewart any day.  I have had days (or years) when I just didn't feel like going above and beyond and to my surprise the holiday was still fun and memorable.

On the other hand...

Something about Christmas just makes me want to throw a coat of sugar and wrapping paper on just about EVERYTHING.  Any time I have a free minute, I want to cram it with something festive.  If that sounds like you this year, I hope some of my ideas (or the ideas I've copied from others) will help make this Christmas a memorable one for you.

Decking the Halls!

  • One cheap, whimsical way to add some Christmas magic to your home is to hang ornaments from ceiling.  Chances are you have plenty to spare, so the only thing you have to buy are those Command hooks (you know, they are removed by pulling a tab) and maybe the string.  I use a combination of fishing wire and/or silver or red gift wrapping rope...whatever I had laying around. Don't forget to use shatter-proof ornaments!  (Ummm...found that one out the hard way!)

  • You might also notice in this picture the Christmas tree art on the wall.  I bought the canvases from Michael's, some craft paint, and put my artistic sister to work.  Three very simple tree-shapes, all different colors, add an elegant touch to the room.

  • Another cute and cheap (picking up on the theme here?!) idea is to add "shelf-cicles" to your shelves.  Using felt (showed in the picture from or posterboard (what I have used in the past), cut out icicle-shapes the length of each side of your shelf.  You can also buy sparkly felt or glue glitter onto the posterboard for more wintery sparkle.  Tape the icicle shapes onto a strip of paper that is a few inches wide and the same length of your shelf.  Place decorations on top of the paper to secure.  If you use felt these are easily reusable year after year.

  • Wrap bedroom doors with Christmas wrapping paper...just be prepared that it might not last too long! 

Make the Season Bright..

  • Advent Coloring:  This year, I wanted to celebrate and honor Christmas each morning with my kids by using an Advent calendar.  Normally, I tuck a little note in each pocket with fun and/or silly instructions ("Eat one candy cane after breakfast", "Bring a cookie to your teacher", "Dance like a reindeer").  I still plan to do this little tradition, but I wanted to incorporate some of the real Christmas story into our daily routine as well.  After looking around, I found the perfect idea! has a coloring page for each day of Advent.  Beginning with the angel coming to Mary, each day builds up to the good news of Christmas.  You can save each page to create a family book to read on Christmas day.  What a great idea!
*note:  one reason I've always been a bit leery of an advent or countdown calendar is because it just seems like I'm doomed from the start.  Don't worry if you miss a day or two...or ten!  (We haven't even started ours yet and it's almost a week into December!)  The point isn't perfection, it's to focus on the
meaning of Christmas and to make memories.

  • I love to infuse just about everything with a little Christmas magic.  Some cute ideas:
    • If the kids go to bed without any trouble, an "elf" leaves a mini candy cane on their pillow during the night.
    • Festive mini-marshmallows (star or tree shaped for example) or sprinkles are cute to throw in the lunch box, a trail mix, hot chocolate, on top of yogurt, etc.
    • Check out the dollar section of Target or any dollar store for fun pencils, erasers, cups, fingertip towels, etc. to add more flare around the house (or school!).

  • Cookie Decorating or Gingerbread Houses:  DON'T set high expectations for these types of activities.  The goal is FUN...not perfection!  Some tips for making these types of activities a little more enjoyable for moms:
    • Give each kid a large plastic or paper plate with their own "palette" of decorating stuff (different colored frosting, sprinkles, marshmallows, etc.).  This way, you don't have to worry about kids fighting over one type of candy, mixing/spilling toppings, and all that junk.
    • Pull hair back and sleeves up!
    • Don't try to make everything from scratch!  Use a sugar cookie mix or a gingerbread kit instead of wasting so much time just preparing for the big event.  Graham cracker houses are also an easy alternative to baking.
    • Let them make a mess (within reason, of course) and try not to fuss about it.  It can be cleaned up later...just let them have fun and enjoy the activity without seeing mom hyperventilate.

Make Christmas Morning Magic

  • Wrap gag gifts for your kids:  I love to wrap up Daddy's funky socks, a diaper, or something else gross just to make the day a little sillier.

  • Emphasize GIVING: probably my favorite Christmas tradition is from my own childhood.  We would wake up on Christmas morning to 6 piles of presents, labeled for each kid.  The catch was that our own piles contained NONE of our presents.  We would take turns giving a present from our pile to another kid.  How neat is it that we would argue over who's turn it was to give a present?  We continue this tradition with our own kids, and I love taking the emphasis off of "me me ME" and more on sharing and enjoying each other's joy.

  • Santa's Trail:  use marshmallows, sparkles, etc., to make a trail that Santa left behind.  The kids love to follow the trail down the stairs and to their presents. 

Have a blessed and merry Christmas!

Monday, July 11, 2011

Summer: How to Beat the Heat!

Ahh, Summer...
The kids are home, the days are l o n g, and I am faced with the task of entertaining my 4 little peeps without going stir crazy.  Yes...I have to admit that spending time outside is not always appealing to me.  The heat burns, the humidity is oppressive, and the bugs...
oh, the bugs
As my poor little two-year-old (not known for being a tough guy) always says, "bugs are bothewin' me"! 

So, for those times when you just don't feel like braving the sizzling sun, I have compiled a few entertaining activities from my bag of tricks to keep the lil' ones happy and their mommy sane.  Since we are often spur-of-the-moment type people, I like to have activities that require little to no preparation and everyday materials that are on easily on hand.  I hope you find something you can use to make your summer more enjoyable!

1.  Cheerios Jewelry
What mom doesn't have stale Cheerios in her pantry?  Dump some in a bowl, dig around for some pipe cleaners or yarn, and have your kids make edible bracelets or necklaces.

2. Rock Painting

Yup.  Paint rocks.  Or sticks.  Or anything that you can find outside that's paintable.  We have huge, smooth rocks in our landscaping that provide a perfect canvas for my budding artists.  I love to decorate our gardens, sidewalks, deck...whatever...with the finished products.

Tip- I have a vinyl St. Patrick's Day tablecloth that I use only for messy projects. I just throw it over the table and the kids can go crazy without making me crazy.  Sometimes I wipe it off, sometimes I just fold the nasty thing right up and tuck it away for next time.
Tip- Nudify your kids!  I strip my precious Picassos of at least their shirts before paintbrush hits hand.
Tip- I use the small, cheapie bottles of paint (Plaid brand?) that are *not* washable so that their work can stay outside in the elements.  To make them a little more durable, I finish with a spray of clear glossy spray paint.

3.  Pillow Diving
What's more fun than leaping into a sea of pillows?  Round up all the pillows and cushions you can find (just make sure they're not your good pillows!).  Throw them on the floor in front of your couch and let those monkeys jump away.  Of course, constant supervision goes without saying! 

4.  Movie Party
Yeah, I said it.  Turn on the TV.  Pop some popcorn, grab the blankets, and pile up on the floor with a good flick. 
Tip- to make it extra special, grab a piece of construction paper, shape into a cone (think dunce cap style), staple in place, and pour popcorn into the cones.  I've been known to hide a little treat in the bottom.  The kids love it!  Just keep a vacuum handy...

5.  Tea Party

If you have a tea set, great!  If not, no biggie.  Brew some decaf tea (or use juice), add a few little cookies or crackers, & throw in a corny accent.  And don't just think this is for girls only-- I know several cool little dudes who enjoy a good old-fashioned tea partay.

6. Play Dough
I know, I know!!! We moms HATE that nasty, messy stuff that the kids love to eat, mix, and crumble.  But with a few tips, it can be less destructive AND provide your cherubs with a looong and creative activity.

Tip- once again, break out that cheap vinyl tablecloth reserved JUST for mess-making.  Set your kids at a table on a HARD SURFACE floor (NO carpets!) and make the environment fun and relaxing so they will stay put for a while.
Tip- make an iTunes playlist just for the kids (I even taught my daughter how to turn it on for us) and let fun kid music play while they're playing and doughing.
Tip- I set my laptop somewhere near the table (lock the keyboard!) and pull up, Play Doh's awesome website.  My kids love looking at all of the different creations and are inspired to make their own.
Tip- Don't worry if they mix colors or make a mess.  The stuff is cheap.  Let it dry for a little bit and it'll sweep right up.  Don't forget to employ your little ones to help clean up when they're done!

7.  Swimming Tub
Can't stand the idea of dragging out the kiddie pool, filling it with water, lathering up squirming bodies, slipping on the wet floors, peeling off grassy clothes, dumping out 9 tons of water, cleaning up all the pool accessories, and collapsing in a heap of exhaustion after the kids enjoyed exactly 2 1/2 minutes of active "swimming"?  Try an indoor swim.  Let your kids don their cute new suits from Target, coat the floor with towels, and take a deep breath. 
***inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale****
Now, let them go crazy!  Give 'em a beach ball and some pool toys, and maybe even squirt in some soap just to kill two birds with one stone.  But try not to do too much so that they think they are really breaking the rules and swimming, not bathing.

8.  Mommy Daycare

Turn your everyday activities into Preschool-themed events and your kids are instantly having fun.  We have snacks in the "cafeteria", enjoy a song or two at "circle time", and compose a morning message.  After taking a few minutes to download free printable worksheets or coloring pages...voila! have your very own classroom.

9.  Question Box
Take a tip from Sid the Science Kid and keep a Question Box (or notebook) for all of those crazy questions your kids ask. 

Are robots real?  Are carrots real?  What's the biggest planet and why can't we live there? 

Shrug and pop it in your question box.  Then, when you're particularly void of activities, snuggle up with your inquizzative one and let the research begin!  My kids love seeing videos of how cars are made, pictures of where their food comes from, and so on.


Finally, if all else fails: find another stir-crazy mom, call her ASAP, brew a pot of coffee, and let your kids come up with their own creative entertainment. 


Friday, June 24, 2011

God the Parent

Well, here I am once again after another late-night coffee indulgence left with nothing but "That 70's Show" on Nick at Nite and my own musings.  Unfortunately (OK, fortunately!), my exaggerated sighs, tosses, and turns failed to wake up my poor sleeping husband and I am reduced to sharing my thoughts with a machine.

Last week, my oldest daughter (who happens to be my most challenging) had a good week.  She was pleasant, obedient, and non-combative.  During that week I praised and thanked God for this because I desperately needed some encouragement and proof that she wasn't going to grow up to become a delinquent.  Sometimes, it just feels like nothing is sinking in!

This week, much to my disappointment, she went right back to her usual ways.  Seeing her make the wrong choices, lose control of her temper, etc., is always frustrating and exhausting for me.  But I recently realized it is more than that--it is heartbreaking.  Last week, I noticed that her good choices and behavior made her so happy.  Her life in general was easier when she wasn't fighting with her own "demons" and--of course--with me.  :)  This week, I noticed how angry, sad, and frustrated she got.  I can plainly see that it is the direct result of her sins that is making her so miserable, but no matter what we do she just can't seem to make this connection.

Then I thought about ME.  I thought about how I lost my temper.  How I snapped at one of the kids for asking a harmless question. How I yelled when I should have taught.  How miserable, anxious, and guilt-ridden these actions left me.  I so desperately want to set an example for these kids yet every single day I fail!

This got me thinking (and believe me, I spend countless hours thinking and fretting about this) about how heartbreaking it must be for God when I sin.  I guess I think that God is angry, disappointed, or ashamed of me when I sin; but I never thought about how sad it must make Him.  God wants us to be happy and delight in Him, but sin destroys that.  It is a state of misery!  I can see it in my relationship with my daughter.  Yes, I am ashamed of and frustrated with her; but I am also saddened at the happiness she is refusing.   

I think that being a parent has allowed me to see God in a whole new light-- as a fellow parent.  I cannot even begin to imagine how much He loves His children and how much He desires the very best for us.  So often we absolutely refuse to accept it!  It seems so ridiculous that my kids choose to resist the path that they know leads to a joyful life, but I am doing the exact same thing with my own behavior.

Being a parent is teaching me that I am in desperate need of God's grace and assistance in every moment of this wild ride.  He knows what I am going through, because He is experiencing it with me!  He can help me choose obedience and model it for my kids. It isn't easy, but maybe someday, I will be a good girl and make my Father proud.  :)